Tuesday, July 28, 2009

The Hunter

I've been told too many times by my friends and now even some clients that I'm too nice. I really don't know what I did. But maybe I do now.

I had a client who has been with us for years now. As such, when we mailed the client for a renewal contract last year, we didn't follow up closely and we never received the signed contract. We trusted the client and actually, even if we realised a few months later that the client had not returned the signed contract, we probably will not chase for it. We didn't want the client to think that we did not trust him.

It was a judgmental error on my part. This year, the client decided not to renew the contract. When I checked with my accounts if the client had any outstanding payments, I was surprised to realise that the client still had an outstanding $6,000. He had only paid 50% last year. My accounts staff had been chasing for the payment for the past one year!

Recent months, we had intensified our effort in chasing all outstanding payments as collection of payments had been difficult this year. When we chased this client for payment, my accounts had been promised payments but it never came. He even went as far as telling us that the cheque had been sent and queried us why we have not received it yet. When my accounts staff assured him that we've not received, he said he had the cheque cancelled. The funny thing is, knowing him, if he had really cancelled the cheque, he would definitely have blamed us for wasting his $20 to authorise the cancellation of the cheque, which he didn't.

The most recent excuse he had given us was that his accounts will not release payment if we did not have a signed contract. Knowing that it was just a ruse, I called him and told him this is a simple problem and it is easily rectified. We all agree that he had utilised our services and received our products, all that's missing is a signed paper. I told him my staff can simply meet up with him and he can sign the document. He said he was busy and will call us back to arrange a meeting. Days gone by and he never returned our calls and he never answered our calls either.

Yesterday, using another phone, I called him. I suspect that because it was not a familiar number, he answered my call. When he realised it was me, he had wanted to hang up the phone citing that he is in a middle of a meeting. I did not relent and asked him where he is now and I'll come over to meet him. He said he'll be off to another meeting soon. I asked him where is his next appointment and I'll meet him there after his appointment. He agreed.

When I arrived, I texted him that I've arrived. He replied saying that his meeting will be long and suggested that I meet him other day. I'm relentless. I told him it is alright as I can wait for him.

Many years ago, when I was still a fresh grad and joined as a member of my hostel's business committee, maybe because I was first year, I was given the unenviable task of collecting a $500 payment which the previous committee had failed to collect during their one year term.

I went to the shop, met the owner and told him my intention. He told me he was busy and asked me to wait. I was relentless. I waited for 6 hours outside the shop until he was about to close his shop for the day. Seeing how persistent I was and secretly suspecting I'll be back tomorrow if I didn't manage to collect the payment, he wrote a cheque of $500 and handed it to me. To me, spending 6 hours at one go to chase for the payment is better than spending one year chasing with no results to show.

Yes, I'm relentless and I can be stubborn. Some people don't know how to handle me as I have extraordinary persistency beyond normal human tolerance.

Yesterday, I waited in the building for 3 hours. I had asked the security guard and he had told me that the elevator lobby was the only exit for guests. With a Sandman trade paperback, I planted myself at the lobby and waited.

After 3 hours of waiting, I felt that something was amissed. Call it sixth sense or gut feeling. I texted my client to check if his meeting would be done soon and he never replied. I walked out of the building at 9 pm and looked up the 4-storey commercial building. It was pitch black. Other than the security guard, everyone had left the building. Obviously, my client had sneaked out from the staff-access exit at the back of the building.

This really irks me. He had wasted my time and did not have the decency to answer my calls or reply my sms when his meeting had finished and made me wait in vain. By the time I came home, my younger son had already slept. I had missed seeing my younger son today. This had irritated me to no end.

He has now made himself my personal responsibility. He is in the line of sight of my bow and arrow. I'm ready to put war paint on my face and don my hunting gear. The tribal drums have sounded and the hunt has begun. I'll be quiet like a phantom walking through the Amazon jungle. I'll be tracking your trails and I'll follow you. I'll be relentless in my pursuit. I'll wear you down mentally and physically. I'll be relentless.

I am the hunter and you are my prey.

Thursday, July 23, 2009

Corporate Junk #21

Incident 1:

I received a call from the accounting department of a client. They were querying an invoice which my company had billed them as they didn't have any record of such a business transaction. I promised them I'll look into it and furnish them the document proof.

When my accounts staff checked with my sales staff, they realised there had been a misunderstanding between them. The client who called usually acts as our middleman, or agent if you like. But this deal was not a big enough amount which they usually would not deal. So they've asked the buyer to get the product through us directly.

This had been communicated very clearly to us and we were suppose to bill the buyer directly. My accounts called the client's accounts to explain that we've billed them wrongly and we'll send a credit note.

*Red face moment!*


Incident 2:

Received another call from another client. Apparently my staff sent a new contract to them without changing the previous client's company name to theirs. OOPS!

*Another red face moment!*


Incident 3:

I've always given my sales staff a sales target. Initially when she started, her target was $300k per year which she managed to meet on her second year. During her third year, when I wanted to raise her sales target, she pleaded me not to. She didn't want to feel stress but she promised me that she'll work hard. For the past 2 years, her sales revenue was $500k.

So in the beginning of this year, when I wanted to raise her target, I relented again when she said she didn't want the additional stress.

A few months ago, she told me she had met her sales target for the year already and told me she didn't have to work for the rest of the year. We laughed. She was happy, I was happy.

Two nights ago, a sudden realisation dawn on me. What if for the rest of the year, $300k is all my sales staff is able to get? That means, for this year, I'll have a drop of $200k in revenue! And I wouldn't know or be alerted to it until the first quarter of next year when I closed my books and submit my company's corporate tax filing! That would have been too late for me to do anything as I can't turn back time!

My budget for expenses this year has been based on the revenue of the past years. Maybe it was due to the reduction in sales that was the real reason why the company has not been able to collect enough payments each month to meet our monthly expenses.

I didn't have an early warning detection system in place. Rather, the parameters were set wrong! In a challenging market condition due to the financial crisis, this error of mine can be catastrophic!

I felt the blood drained as I was afraid it was already too late. Immediately that night, I went through the sales numbers for this year. After crunching some numbers for the past 2 years, I was relieved to find that the sales revenue for the first seven months of this year was comparable to last year. So far, my company is still on target to meet its revenue projection.

The next day, I explained the situation to my sales staff and she was willing to increase her target to $500k for the whole year.

How could I have been so careless? I was an idiot. FML!

Note: The sales revenue numbers used above are for illustration purposes only. It does not represent my company's real revenue numbers. Any similarity is purely coincidental. 如有雷同,实属巧合。 :p

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

My New Ride

A few days ago, I had gone to meet a friend who is an intellectual and a highly logical person. When he saw my car, he exclaimed, "Why you bought this car? This car has very bad ROI!"

I really didn't know how to answer my friend... except that I like it? Before buying the car, I really didn't know how much it cost except that when I saw it driven on the roads, I took a liking to its silhouette immediately. But I didn't recognise its emblem on the front of the car. Yes, I was really a noob when it comes to car. So the next few time when I see a similar model again, I paid a lot more attention to the back of the car and finally caught a glimpse of its model and make.

Then I visited sgcarmart.com to have a gauge of the price. The car was actually within my budget even though it was considered to be on the higher side. I've asked my wife for opinion. Well, she knows me very well. She said if I like the car and since I can afford it, I should just get it. If I were to drive any other car, I would never be satisfied. In fact, I'll chastise myself for making a 'bad' buy until I buy a new car again... that would be many years of self-torture and unnecessary self-inflicted punishment.

I convinced myself that since I would spend at least 2 hours each day in the car, which is a large portion of my waking hours, driving a car that I like is not only logical but critical. *self-bish*

And I do think it is time that I reward myself and get myself something that I like. So, I present my 'new' car (technically, it is not new as I've driven it for a while now).


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My new ride... I ish happy! :)

Tuesday, July 21, 2009

My Weekly Schedule

Twittered: Monday blues? Psstt.... share with u my secret cure... u work 7 days a week like me... u'll never hv Monday blues again :p

Now that the school term has started, my designated role as a chauffeur has resumed and my daily schedule is pretty much as below:


Monday to Friday:


6.00 am - I wake up and get ready to drive my son to school.

6.45 am - My son and I leave the apartment for the multi-storey car park.

6.50 am - I drive my son to school. This is when I morphed into F1 racer. *kidding!*

7.15 am - My son has to reached school by this time or else he is considered late. *bleah!*

7.45 am - I reach home. Once in the week, I'll make a stop at the petrol station for the weekly petrol refill. Then I'll reach home at 8.00 am instead.

8.00 am - I have the option of reading newspapers, blogs, twitters, plurks and/or facebook. Occasionally, I'll choose to work. :p

9.00 am - Bring the younger son to childcare and have breakfast with wife at the kopitiam.

10.00 am - Starts work.

1.10 pm - Stop work to fetch the elder son back from school.

2.05 pm - Reached home and have lunch with wife and son.

2.30 pm - Starts work again.

4.30 pm - Goes for a jog (on alternate days). The new me requires myself to have a disciplined, strong, focus and healthy mind and body. So jogging is part of the training routine.

6.30 pm - Stops work. Set the table for dinner. If I went jogging, I would have bathed and rested then set the table for dinner.

7. 00 pm - The whole family has dinner together.

8.00 pm - Clears the table and wash the dishes.

8.30 pm - Bathe.

9.00 pm - Free time, after the children are tugged into their beds. I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

10.00 pm - Suppose to be my sleep time but all my online friends know that for the past 7 months, I've rarely slept at this hour. I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

11.00 pm - Allocated reading time. It may be a novel, self-improvement book or book on business management and/or strategies. But I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

12.00 am - The witching hour. Time to sleep.


Saturday:


9.00 am - Wakes up, read newspapers and get ready for the day.

10.00 am - Jogging.

11.00 am - Bathe and breakfast.

12 noon - Pretty flexible hours. These days I usually spent the Saturdays catching up on work without being disturb.

5.00 pm - My weekly fix where I visit Kinokuniya to browse/buy comics trade paparbacks, books and/or magazines.

7.30 pm - Reach my in-laws place for dinner.

9.30 pm - Home.

10. 30 pm - I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

12.00 am - Sleep.


Sunday:


9.00 am - Wakes up, read newspapers and get ready for the day.

10.00 am - Tries to spend time with kids. Play with them or give tuition to the elder son in his maths subject.

1.00 pm - Swimming lessons for the kids.

3.00 pm - Home.

4.00 pm - I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online while my children take their naps.

6.30 pm - Stops work. Set the table for dinner.

7. 00 pm - The whole family has dinner together.

8.00 pm - Clears the table and wash the dishes.

8.30 pm - Bathe.

9.00 pm - Free time, after the children are tugged into their beds. I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

10.00 pm - Suppose to be my sleep time but all my online friends know that for the past 7 months, I've rarely slept at this hour. I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

11.00 pm - Allocated reading time. It may be a novel, self-improvement book or book on business management and/or strategies. But I'll usually be working, blogging and chatting with friends online.

12.00 am - The witching hour. Time to sleep.

Rinse and repeat the cycle.

Monday, July 20, 2009

Dreaming Reality


In the dead of night, where the witching hour has just passed. With a cigarette hanging loosely on the edge of my lips, I sucked at the cigarette and the small fiery red fire lit brightly for a brief moment in the darkness of my room. The tobacco burnt and become ash. I blew out the smoke gently and it slowly floats up and dispersed in the emptiness of my room. I then held the cigarette lightly between my thumb and forefinger of my left hand while I reached out with my right hand and took a swig of my chilled bottle of beer. It was a bitter taste of tar-mixed beer.

Tonight is the night I'll take stock of my past 9 years.

There was a dark period in the past 9 years but I've long past that. There was a time then when I wondered how did I get where I am today. Was it luck? Was I a fraud? Was I a one-hit wonder? It was a period when I was afraid of knowing the answer, when I was not confident of myself and so I lost myself in the ever growing day-to-day work of my growing business. And when that overwhelmed me... I lost myself among other things.

I guess I lost confidence of myself some time during the first 3 years of my start-up. I mean, I wouldn't have started the business if I did not have confidence of myself, right? But during the three years, it was not going anywhere. Self-doubts began to creep into my soul, like the roots of an evil tree encircling myself and sucking the life force that was me. It was painful to see failure. It was excruciating to face failure every day and when you meet your friends who are "making" it in their career, you feel small. Your self-esteem get rips into shreds and your pride splinters into million pieces scattering all over the land of loss. I feel like screaming out the pain but it was a scream of silence. It was a pain I have to bear. And I bore it for 3 years... 3 years that felt like an eternity when I felt as though I was walking with a penance in a world of darkness, a world without hope.

I am revisiting that period tonight. I need to understand why I am here today and how I reached my current place. I need to take stock and understand, if I were to embark on the next phase of my journey.

During the recent months of self-reflection, I embarked on projects which I don't even know where to begin. All these projects though different in scale but all seemed to have insurmountable challenges. But I took up all the projects with the strong conviction I'll be able to figure them out along the way. When I shared some of the problems I encountered with my friends, some of them actually advised me to give up. When I didn't show any intention of giving up, one of my friend actually called me a glutton for punishments!

In the end, all projects were completed and the cash register rang! *ka-ching*

These made me realise how I reach where I am today - I have a strong capacity for abuse and pain. During the first 3 years, if I didn't have the capacity for pain, any sane man would have given up before the end of the first year. During then, with no end in sight, I just soldiered on and I allowed my soul to be subjected to all the mental abuse. Even when there were no solutions in sight to the problems I face, I'll just keep coming up with different and creative solutions... I just keep trying. I word hard and I don't give up easily. It may take a while but I eventually get to where I want to be when I set my mind to it.

A friend of mine, she had been dreaming big ambition for a long long time now. We started probably around the same time. I've been guiding her, helping her as I want to see her succeed too and I see her potential. But recently, I've lost hope and patience. I realise that she had only been dreaming but she had not been putting forceful and concrete actions into making her dream a reality. When the going gets tough, she switch goals and hide because she can't bear to go through the pain. All she has are just talk. Words without actions are empty and hollow.

I know now, if you would like to make your dream into reality, you must be able to withstand the unbearable pain. To live our dream, will be the most difficult thing we do in life. Nothing worth doing in this world will ever be easy. I've also realised even with the modest achievements I have, I did not become soft. Instead, the trial by fire of the past 9 years have hardened my hide and has prepared me to embark on the next phase of the journey. This will be my phase of fortification and expansion.

Standing atop the peak of a mountain, with the pale grey clouds beneath my feet, I'm welcoming the rise of the new sun, the coming of a new dawn.

I would live my dream and make it into a reality. Even if I fail... I would have lived!

P.S. No, I don't smoke and I still have not drunk any alcohol since I've twittered that I'll only drink with friends from now onwards. Just utilising my creative license and liberty to create the melodramatic effect. Please indulge me and I thank you. :)

Thursday, July 09, 2009

Winter, Spring, Winter?

After winter in April, the cold got worse in May. It may actually have been Ice Age in May.

In the beginning of last year, I've put excess company fund into an investment fund. I wanted the money to work harder for the company instead of just sitting pretty in the bank. In the first few months, the investment made modest gain and everything seemed well. Then sometime in the 3rd quarter of last year, the fund just went south. At the advice of the bank's financial advisor, we switched to another fund.

In May this year, the fund suffered a huge drop and it does not seem like it'll ever recover. So to stem the bloodletting, I've made the painful decision of realising the loss. It was a difficult decision as there is always the what ifs. What if the fund recover in the future? Am I being too emotional and rash? However, what if due to my inaction and indecisiveness, I lose everything. In the end, I hardened my resolve and the company lost $60k.

I don't look back any more. What's done is done. There is only going forward.

In May, when we closed the accounts, we only received $31,916.12. Again, it was way below our operating costs. So we suffered a loss in terms of cash flow in the month of May again.

I've already given instructions to my account staff to follow up closely all the late outstanding payments from our clients. I expect to see improvement in the June collection.

Indeed, we received the highest amount of payments in June. But it is nothing to crow about. The higher amounts were due to the late payments of clients for the months of April and May. But it does bring a brief respite for June.

But things seem to have turned south for July again. Almost one-third of the month has passed and we've only received $4,510. That's really really a pathetic sum.

The war of endurance has begun.

A Different World

A few days ago, my friend forwarded me an article link to channelnewsasia.com. Our Foreign Affairs Minister George Yeo was giving a speech at the 15th anniversary celebrations of Damai Secondary School. He mentioned that the world will be a very different place when the crisis is over and countries like China, India, Brazil and Russia will have major roles in the new world.

He suggested to cope with the change is to learn new languages.

Honestly speaking when I read that sentence, it gave me "What the (sorry I don't swear :p)....?" moment! Really, to cope with the new and different world, we are to pick up more languages? Which one? Hindi? Russian? Portuguese? Or all of the above? If not for our country's language policy and social engineering, our Chinese language would not have languished at its current sad state.

As it is, the world has already been different without needing the crisis to be over. The world has long passed us over and the government reassures us everything is going to be ok? By learning more languages?

Just look at the recent result published by Skytrax, in the survey of 190 airports by the British-based consultancy, Changi Airport (one of the crown jewel, pride and joy of our government) scored its lowest ranking in eight years! That is even after the opening of our S$1.75 billion T3 on 9 Jan last year.

Since 2001 to 2009, Changi Airport has never been awarded the first position. We had always languished behind Hong Kong International Airport for 9 continuous years. But Incheon International Airport managed to leapfrog Singapore in 5 years and claim the first position this year. What has happened during the past 9 years? Why didn't our airport manage to clinch the first position?

In the past 9 years, the world has already been moving in a quickening pace and been a more competitive place. Have we become less competitive? I think the answer to the question is obvious. The world is already a different place. We don't have to wait for the crisis to be over.

Just take a look at the following countries: Japan has Sony. South Korean has Samsung. Finland (population of 5.34 million, slightly more than Singapore's 4.84 million) has Nokia. Each of these countries has their own language. Other than possibly English, did they need to learn other new languages before they build these companies? Most probably not.

We should start building our own company, if not companies, that can compete in the world arena. This is the only possible solution for the future of Singapore (definitely a better solution than learning new languages). Sometimes I wonder if the dearth of local world-class companies are linked to the proliferation of GLCs and Temasek invested companies in Singapore. The market size of Singapore is already small and if we have GLCs and Temasek invested companies giving projects to companies in the same ecosystem, where does this leave the independent and private companies? Picking up crumbs and leftovers?

Learn new languages to cope with the change? LMAO! Sheesh!

ChannelNewsAsia
4 July 2009
Current global economic crisis will test Singaporeans' moral character
By Cheryl Lim

SINGAPORE: Foreign Affairs Minister George Yeo said the current crisis in the global economy will test the moral character of Singaporeans.

Speaking at the 15th anniversary celebrations of Damai Secondary School on Saturday, Mr Yeo said if there is a strong sense of mutual obligation, solidarity and affection, Singaporeans will not only pull through the crisis but will also emerge stronger and more united.

But he added the world will be a very different place when the crisis is over, with many centres of political, economic and cultural influence in the world.

He said he expects China and India will become big powers in the future, and Russia and Brazil will also play major roles.

Mr Yeo said Singaporeans will also have to prepare for a different world and safeguard their security.

One way to cope with the changes is to learn languages.

He also added that making the maximum use of technology will help ensure Singaporeans keep connected with the rest of the global network.

Monday, July 06, 2009

Corporate Junk #20

While I'm typing out this entry, I'm listening to Pet Shop Boy's new album, Yes. It sure transports me back to a more innocent and nostalgic times.

A client of ours for 3 years had unilaterally given themselves a 60% discount. They told us that this is their budget for the year. They practically told us, "Take it or leave it." At 40% of the original selling price, there was no way we could sell the product to them. It wouldn't even cover our cost. So obviously, we had to decline their 'offer'.

A few days later, another staff of a different department called my sales staff again to check with us if the initial price which we offered to them was still available to them. Well, it has been a few days only so we said it was still available to them, even though the quotation has expired, we can extend the deadline. Immediately that evening, they gave us their verbal agreement and we emailed them the contract.

Some days later, we received a call from the same staff again. The staff told us that their general manager (GM) is not signing the contract. Their GM demanded that we give a 10% discount and shouted, "Don't they know there is an economic recession now?!! Why are they still offering the same price?"

My staff explained to them that we've already given them a special price that was only available to long time clients. In fact, our current selling price for the product is $12k but we are offering them at a special price of $10k, which was already a 16% discount. They wanted a further 10% discount which would be another $1000 off the $10k price.

When my staff told me about the incident, I instinctively asked if the GM is of certain characteristic as I suspected him to be one. I'm not trying to stereotype but my experience from the past 9 years had not been pleasant with GM/MD/CEO who coincidentally happens to belong to this category. In general, they don't value past relationships. They would want to shove their views and pricing down your throat. Even when they are the ones who are asking for a favour, they would come with a high-and-mighty attitude, just demanded that you bow down to their requests. It is always either their way or the high way! For example, in this incident, the GM doesn't care that the staff has already agreed to the deal and given the verbal agreement. The GM just doesn't understand that our nuances of "face", "honour" and "integrity". In the first place, it was the GM who had given the go-ahead before the staff gave us the verbal agreement. It was only when the GM felt that we should have given them a 10% discount because of the "economic recession" that he rescinded his decision. This caused his staff to lose "face" and "honour". The staff was so embarrassed and had to apologise to us profusely.

We understand the staff's predicament. She was just a messenger so we tried to help her and not make things difficult for her. So after discussing with my staff, we offered a 10% discount if they would sign a 2 year service agreement instead of 1 year. We thought this would have been a win-win situation. However, the GM told us not to try to be creative. They just want a straight 10% discount. Nothing else. The GM actually told us that why should he restrict himself to a 2-year contract. If next year, the economy has not improved, he smugly told us that he'll ask for further discounts again and he fully expects us to comply.

When my staff told me about this, I was very angry with the GM's attitude. It was so 目中无人 (literally translated: his eyes see no one else)! It was obvious he was not even interested in forging a good relationship. In fact, he wasn't treating us with respect. I shan't even begin to repeat his words and his condescending tone when he was talking to my staff.

A part of me (the logical side) was wondering if I should just forfeit the $1000 to get $9000. If I don't give in, just because of $1000, I'll lose $9000. But I just can't remove the mental image of his smug face, that if we accede to his request, he would be feeling victorious and think, "See... I knew it... you are all trying to act tough only. You are all weak on the inside."

Just the thought of it makes my blood boils. No, I shall not allow ourselves to be viewed as 东亚病夫 (literally translated: the sick people of Asia). Like the lead character in the movie Ip Man, I'll not forsake my pride for a few bags of rice.



I instructed my staff to reject their offer and stop entertaining their ridiculous requests. I'm walking away from the deal.

Sunday, July 05, 2009

A New Cut

I've been going to the same hairstylist for the past 15 years. Yes, I'm a loyal customer. But a friend of mine has been complaining that I'm a presentation of three decades of fashion: jeans of the 90s, shirts of the 80s, and hairstyle of the 70s. * weeps *

After consulting a lady friend (whom I've known for a long long time) while drinking at Orgo, she also agreed that my hairstyle is in need of some updating, to put it across gently.

Well, easier said than done. Which salon to go to now? So like all surfer, I did my research online and found from the recommendations and comments online, it was generally advised that if you want an obvious change of style... go Shunji Matsuo. With great trepidations and fear of the unknown outcome, I made an appointment with the salon. I was determined to have a change but I don't know if the result will be disastrous instead. Since my hairstylist was a lady for the past 15 years, I decided to try a male hairstylist this time.

When the hairstylist asked if I've any preference, I replied, "Just change me."

Seriously, after the cut, I don't know what to make of it, I don't know what I feel. But it wasn't me and it took some time of getting use to. After the cut, the hairstylist suggested I should dye my hair. Without hesitation, I agreed. My immediate and decisive answer caught myself by surprised too. For the past weeks, I've sensed a slow transformation in myself. I've felt more assured, firm, certain and I've been more decisive.

From a simple wash and cut which took 45 mins, now my whole transformation took about 2 hours. Well... transformation does take time.

After my hair is coloured, the hairstylist styled my hair using wax and showed me how to do it on my own too. I've always thought the male characters in Japanese Anime with their hair standing up looking messy and cool at the same time was not possible. Now, I realised it was possible and real. This is how I look now:

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Haha! Like real I'll look like that. I wished! But the truth is, my hair is coloured and they are standing up when styled with wax. (Hmmm... I wonder who is Cloud's hairstylist and how he managed to style his hair this way. Should ask him for tips next time I meet him.)

It's been a month since my cut. In general, I received favourable responses. My eldest son's response when he first saw me with the new cut, "Papa, you cut your hair. Not bad. You look a little bit better." T.T

Even though most of my friends were surprised by my change, they were still supportive and welcomed the change. For some reason, within the first few days of my cut, all my good pals and close friends called and met me either for lunch, dinner or drinks. All saw my new hairstyle within the first 5 days. This must be a conspiracy! =_=

Truth of the matter is, I've always been a goody two-shoes. I'm a very controlled and self-restrained person. I've always been an obedient son to my parents and I don't give them any trouble, not even during my rebellious years. I have never smoke nor tried drugs. I didn't start drinking until I was 26! I don't go around breaking girls' hearts. (I was in one and only one relationship and that was with my wife.) The number of times I went clubbing can be counted with just one hand. When I wanted to get a motorbike license, I obliged my parents when they didn't agree as they didn't feel it was safe. I don't even snack nor eat tidbits!

The funny thing is, after the cut, I've felt myself changing. This was also evident in the way I drive. My driving decisions have become bolder. I used to stay in the same lane but now I'll change lane and get ahead when the opportunity arises. I'm still a safe driver but I allow myself more options and my decisions are quicker and more decisive.

My wife has also sensed the change in me. I wondered if it was the hairstyle that changed me but she thinks that I've been going through a gradual phase of change but the new and more daring hairstyle hastened and completed the metamorphosis. Maybe the change in hairstyle was symbolical of me breaking free of the self-restraints and shackles I've imposed upon myself in the past. I believe all these are the culmination of my self-reflection which began 4 months ago. I've finally broke out of my cocoon and emerged from my shell.

Now I feel more confident, focused and clear-minded. I can see my plans for the next 5 years and what I want to achieve by then. I feel confident and self-assured. There is a new clarity in my actions and there is no doubt. Even when I'm faced with new obstacles or challenges, I've the conviction that I'll overcome them. I'm also better able to keep my cool. Sometimes, I think I even have the cold-blooded clarity of an assassin when facing a challenge. I just know that I'm able to overcome my enemy. I also make bolder and more decisive decisions now.

A new cut, a new me, a new beginning.

Saturday, July 04, 2009

A Nice Friend

Many years ago, when a dear friend of mine asked me to visit her in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and sit in some of her meetings with her vendors so I can help and explain to her some of the technical terms and advice her if the vendors were not trying to con her company. I readily agreed without hesitation. Yes, I would literally go the distance for a friend.

Sometime last year, another good friend of mine, K, needed to collect his new car after selling his old one, I offered to drive up to his place at Upper Bukit Timah and drive him to the car company to pick up his new ride.

A friend of mine was getting married last year and he called me and asked if he could borrow $10k from me if he needed when he buy his hdb unit from the resale market. I told him not to worry as I'll set aside this sum for him and I'm prepared to lend it to him when he needs it. Half a year later, he called me and I lent him the money.

However, that was the last time I would lend money to a friend. In total, I've lent about $20k in the past decade to my friends and till date none have made any real attempt in returning me any money. Sigh.

A few months ago, another friend of mine, in the middle of rushing her work, her work laptop fried. She was on msn conversation with me using her personal laptop when it happened. From the msn messages, I can sense her desperation and despair. It was just past midnight then and it was her birthday. No one should have such a bad start to their birthday, I quickly looked for my friends who are still awake in msn and asked if they had a portable SATA drive I can borrow so I can try to retrieve the data. One of my friend who has it but he stays in Upper Bukit Timah. I drove all the way up and then back again to my friend's place. In the end, even though I was not able to port out the data but I told her not to worry as I'll get it fix. Told her it was her birthday afterall and assured her everything will turn out well. It was around 2 am when I left her place.

The same day, I managed to find a shop that was able to port out her data. I returned her the laptop and with data intact. Birthday memory was saved.

On Thursday night, the home broadband connection of a dear friend of mine suddenly decided to give up on her when she had a very urgent and important meeting to prepare. Fortunately, she was able to connect her laptop directly to the cable modem when I advised her to try. Eventually, we isolated the problem to the router. As I know she would require her wireless connection so she can work more conveniently at home after working hours, I volunteered to help her buy the router since I was going to Funan Centre anyway. I delivered the router to her company and left it with the receptionist as I knew she would be busy in meetings and didn't want to disturb her.

Just received a text message from her thanking me and told me her colleague couldn't believe how nice a friend I am. * embarrassed *

To me, all these things which I've done are all within my capabilities to help so I would just offer my assistance. A dear friend of mine ever commented I'm a rare breed in this world and she even wondered if I'm actually an alien.

Yeah, I'm Kal-El from the planet Krpton. :p

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Sweetness

Forewarned: Two stories of sugar overload. :p

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For some of you who have started reading my blog since its inception may remember my first profile avatar was actually an image of Gundam RX-78. Anyway, what I was trying to say is that I'm a fan of Gundam.

In celebration of the 30th Anniversary of Gundam, Bandai has built a life-size 18 metres tall RX-78-2 at Odaiba, Tokyo! That is like a dream come true! I've also watched the youtube video where the life-size statue actually moved! When I saw the the head of Gundam turned, I was so moved that I can feel my eyes were wet. I probably will be overcome by emotion when I'm there and see it moved right before my eyes. No, I'm not going to wet my pants!

I had planned to visit my Gundam Mecca next year then I learnt from a fellow fan that the statue will only be there for 2 months - until end of August only! After that, it'll no longer be there! How can?! As my son's school has started and my chauffeur duty has resumed, it was difficult for me to just pack up and fly to Tokyo. A friend of mine pointed out that 6 July (Monday) will be a school holiday as Youth Day is on a Sunday this year. I actually can take a flight on Friday night and come back Singapore on Monday. After getting approval from my dear wife, the trip was planned and I was going to Tokyo.

Then my wife caught a cold and fell sick on Tuesday.

18 metre Gundam against my 1.6 metre wife... Gundam never stood a chance. I've decided to stay and look after my wife. :)

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I've been doing something to irritate my wife recently. So by her royal decree, if I were to repeat it and for each time I irritate her, I was suppose to grant her a wish.

A few days later, when I totally stop irritating her, she complained, "Why you so stingy one, don't even want to give me one wish..."

I looked at her and said, "You don't need to get a wish from me this way... Whatever you wish, I'll give it to you..."

*The audience goes awwwwwww.......*

Yeap, Cobalt Paladin is made of sugar and spice and all things nice...

Toothache yet? :p